|
|
Post by ginny on Jul 14, 2020 19:49:42 GMT
summer87, one of my friends has tried getslowly and was quite happy with it. As far as I know, she has switched to e-mail with the friends from there now, just like you and your friends 
|
|
|
|
Post by jamberrychoux on Jul 14, 2020 19:55:53 GMT
Sounds interesting. I have never heard of it before, but will bookmark it so that I can check it out later on. |
|
|
|
Post by Mia on Jul 15, 2020 0:04:49 GMT
I have tried Slowly, but it reminds me of Interpals. Some of the letters seem to want more.
|
|
|
|
Post by ginny on Jul 15, 2020 15:54:39 GMT
I have tried Slowly, but it reminds me of Interpals. Some of the letters seem to want more. Well, you have that pretty much on all websites, don't you! I mean, I've seen it so many times, and when I was on Interpals, PenpalWorld and most recently on Students of the World - I got lots of messages that were completely off the mark. I never gave any indications of wanting to sponsor or looking for a partner / spouse / whatever anyone in my profiles, yet there were messages asking me for financial support, others were openly 'romantic' or had sexual content - on literally all these sites. Others told me the same thing, so I don't think these were isolated incidents. |
|
|
|
Post by jamberrychoux on Jul 15, 2020 17:08:43 GMT
I have tried Slowly, but it reminds me of Interpals. Some of the letters seem to want more. Well, you have that pretty much on all websites, don't you! I mean, I've seen it so many times, and when I was on Interpals, PenpalWorld and most recently on Students of the World - I got lots of messages that were completely off the mark. I never gave any indications of wanting to sponsor or looking for a partner / spouse / whatever anyone in my profiles, yet there were messages asking me for financial support, others were openly 'romantic' or had sexual content - on literally all these sites. Others told me the same thing, so I don't think these were isolated incidents. I got that type of stuff with PenpalWorld, especially within minutes of setting up my profile. My profile was pretty much bare, so I was shocked that I received so many messages from men wanting a relationship. It freaked me out so much that after a few days I just deleted my account. |
|
|
|
Post by Catida on Jul 15, 2020 18:16:32 GMT
All these sites mentioned are new to me. Very interesting too. Has anybody tried the app called slowly? (available on play store). It takes the concept of snail mail - but digital, like sending an email..but will take time to "reach" the other person based on the location. Somebody closer to my home will get the mail faster than somebody outside the country I'm in (2-3 days). They have a selection of country specific digital stamps to send along with each mail. I joined in 2018..and must've sent more than 100 letters by now. Most people join just to see how it works maybe?..so Ghosting happens frequently, but I guess it can happen with snail-mail correspondence too. So far, I made 3 REALLY good friends. We now send emails instead  We can choose which country, age, gender, interests (options available within app) etc we are looking for . In the "auto-match" option, the app gives us around 3 profiles of random people to write to based on our preference; or we can choose to from 100s of profiles. There's no word limit but only 5 pics per letter can be sent (if both parties give permission for photo sharing). Here is the website: www.getslowly.com/en/I had not heard of this app before. Sounds interesting. Is there a way to use it with a computer, or can you only use it with smartphone? I hate writing longer messages with my phone.. |
|
|
|
Post by Catida on Jul 15, 2020 18:25:02 GMT
I got that type of stuff with PenpalWorld, especially within minutes of setting up my profile. My profile was pretty much bare, so I was shocked that I received so many messages from men wanting a relationship. It freaked me out so much that after a few days I just deleted my account. It seems to me there are a bunch of men in PenpalWorld who frequently check the list of new profiles and send the same message for all new women. I suspect they're really after money or some other way to benefit. I got some messages like that right after I joined, too, but after the first week or so they stopped. (I always replied I was only looking for female penpals, or just deleted the messages.) Now I don't get any messages at all |
|
|
|
Post by radellaf on Jul 15, 2020 22:07:01 GMT
I had not heard of this app before. Sounds interesting. Is there a way to use it with a computer, or can you only use it with smartphone? I hate writing longer messages with my phone.. I'm with ya there. I don't think there even should _be_ apps that don't have a matching website. Instagram comes close. You have to do some contortions to even post a picture from a computer. Or, alternatively, free and easy to use phone emulators should be available on computers. They exist but the android one is not free (or comes with nearly-mal-ware) and the iphone one requires jumping through developer hoops to get. Ridiculous state of affairs. As for the thing with the men sending messages to all the new women who sign up... sigh. What is wrong with my gender? My mama raised me better than that. Papa, too. |
|
|
|
Post by michelleg on Jul 16, 2020 0:55:18 GMT
One guy on GPF just asked for my personal email so we can exchange pictures and sadly, my first, gut reaction was, oh no - is he going to send me THOSE kinds of pictures? Thankfully I've never gotten any of those kinds of pictures - too old for that nonsense I suppose - but I'd like to keep it that way! I'm thinking of saying I'd rather use the service for a little longer before I give out that info.
Sigh. Why is this so difficult?!?! Bah!
|
|
|
|
Post by ginny on Jul 16, 2020 7:58:27 GMT
One guy on GPF just asked for my personal email so we can exchange pictures and sadly, my first, gut reaction was, oh no - is he going to send me THOSE kinds of pictures? Thankfully I've never gotten any of those kinds of pictures - too old for that nonsense I suppose - but I'd like to keep it that way! I'm thinking of saying I'd rather use the service for a little longer before I give out that info. Sigh. Why is this so difficult?!?! Bah! I can understand that people want to exchange pictures as it is nice to put a face to a name, but it doesn't have to happen right after the first few messages, I think. |
|
|
|
Post by michelleg on Jul 16, 2020 11:24:55 GMT
One guy on GPF just asked for my personal email so we can exchange pictures and sadly, my first, gut reaction was, oh no - is he going to send me THOSE kinds of pictures? Thankfully I've never gotten any of those kinds of pictures - too old for that nonsense I suppose - but I'd like to keep it that way! I'm thinking of saying I'd rather use the service for a little longer before I give out that info. Sigh. Why is this so difficult?!?! Bah! I can understand that people want to exchange pictures as it is nice to put a face to a name, but it doesn't have to happen right after the first few messages, I think. Well, and we both have photos with our profiles, so it's not like we DON'T know what the other person looks like.... |
|
|
|
Post by PhotoJim on Jul 16, 2020 15:11:22 GMT
I only know the appearance of four of my correspondents. Three are in my journal project and I gradually met them during my travels around Canada over the years. One is from here and I met him at a couple of fountain pen events first.
It hadn't even occurred to me to ask for photos. I enjoy getting to know people without knowing what they look like. It's kind of fun.
I'm guessing that if things persisted long enough, photos might naturally enter the conversation but if a person is writing just for the joy of writing and getting to know a person, photos seem pretty far down the list.
|
|
|
|
Post by Catida on Jul 16, 2020 15:45:20 GMT
It hadn't even occurred to me to ask for photos. I enjoy getting to know people without knowing what they look like. It's kind of fun. I, too, find it fun to get to know people without knowing how they look like. It's fascinating to get to know a person by their inner thoughts without their appearance "getting on the way". Even more so in this time of selfies. I only have one penfriend who suggested we should exchange photos. Before that it really hadn't occured to me either
I was quite surprized when I saw that almost everyone in Penpal World had their (hopefully) own photo as profile picture. But it makes more sense now that I understood many are actually hoping to find more than friendship. When corresponding without romantical hopes I think appearance is irrelevant. |
|
|
|
Post by ginny on Jul 16, 2020 15:48:29 GMT
I can understand that people want to exchange pictures as it is nice to put a face to a name, but it doesn't have to happen right after the first few messages, I think. Well, and we both have photos with our profiles, so it's not like we DON'T know what the other person looks like.... Duh. Then I really don't get the point of it *lol* |
|
|
|
Post by ginny on Jul 16, 2020 15:51:49 GMT
It hadn't even occurred to me to ask for photos. I enjoy getting to know people without knowing what they look like. It's kind of fun. I, too, find it fun to get to know people without knowing how they look like. It's fascinating to get to know a person by their inner thoughts without their appearance "getting on the way". Even more so in this time of selfies. I only have one penfriend who suggested we should exchange photos. Before that it really hadn't occured to me either
I was quite surprized when I saw that almost everyone in Penpal World had their (hopefully) own photo as profile picture. But it makes more sense now that I understood many are actually hoping to find more than friendship. When corresponding without romantical hopes I think appearance is irrelevant.
I wouldn't think it's necessarily people having romance in mind when they ask for a photo. Some people just like to have an idea of what their 'counterpart' looks like. Personally, I couldn't care less, but different strokes for different folks, I think. I don't ask people for photos, but I understand when someone asks. Depending on where we stand with our communication, I either comply - or ignore the question |
|
Oct 25, 2024 13:11:51 GMT
Oct 25, 2024 13:11:51 GMT