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Post by Deleted on May 3, 2018 15:10:15 GMT
A relative was recently diagnosed with cancer and I'd like to send her a letter or card. It's not a person I regularly correspond with or talk to. We meet once a year and send Christmas cards to each other. She's in her late 40s and lives far away.
I feel that it's difficult to write. Do you have any suggestions as to what I could write beyond general things (that I think of her, hope that she won't suffer from the treatment too much etc.)?
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Post by mailartist on May 3, 2018 16:20:00 GMT
So sorry to hear! That's tough news for anybody.
More than what you say may be that you say something.
She's probably more than panicked with treatments, outcomes, life changes, etc., so you might want to subordinate your wishes to a boring litany of ordinariness, like --
It's getting planting time, and you are contemplating petunias vs. pansies. Your peonies need moving, but you don't have the best spot in the yard for them, so they may stay right where they are until 2019. You'll try peas again this year, but last year, they weren't great. You've taken up pie baking, and your last crust turned out pretty good -- but never as good as Aunt Matilda made, no? New neighbors just moved in next door, with more cars than driveway (which will make for exciting maneuvering for on-street parking). The job is going good, but you might move from inventory to billing later on this year, which might be a pay increase, but a steep learning curve as well. You were sorry to hear about the diagnosis. Any news yet about a treatment plan?"
She may not reply, but at least you've given her an option. She can talk about treatment, or dull stuff, like gardening. (If it gives her greater peace, she may well take you up on the latter.)
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Post by Mia on May 3, 2018 16:37:42 GMT
My mother had this recently. Her friend's son died at the end of February (aggressive stomach cancer), yet the following week was the friend's birthday and was a week before the funeral. Her son shares a birthday with another son (non-twin). Birthday cards are all jolly and that, not just the picture on the front but also the sentiments. How can you wish someone very recently bereaved a "Fantastic Day" etc? Need something like, "Thinking of you on your birthday." Perhaps a nice landscape scene on the front.
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Post by DJW1066 on May 4, 2018 11:12:52 GMT
Whenever I come across blank cards with images suitable for sad or tragic events, then I grab a bunch. I'm uncomfortable with the typical preprinted sentiments for such occasions, and prefer a fitting image along with my own very few words inside. Perhaps, like a gentle touch on the arm, the deed speaks louder than words.
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Post by MKB on May 4, 2018 13:45:42 GMT
I decided to send you a letter , as I heard the lousy news and thought some crazy sheening ink might add a little fun to your day. Under the right light you can get some funky reflective colors. I have been getting into letter writing, and I am on this snail mail forum and having a blast...
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Post by Deleted on May 7, 2018 13:42:00 GMT
Many thanks for your thoughts!
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