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Post by Mia on Dec 4, 2015 22:32:01 GMT
Do you send, eventually, photos of yourself to your penpals? Is it a good idea?
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Post by skye on Dec 5, 2015 11:59:17 GMT
I dont believe I have ever sent/exchanged photos with a penpal. Each relationship with a penpal is different from one another so maybe consideration should be given on an individual basis. There are some penpals, if they asked, I would happily send along a photo, for others I wouldnt.
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Post by chojo on Dec 5, 2015 12:40:32 GMT
If I can possibly avoid it I will, the last time I put a photo of my self up for people to see I actually lost pen pals. I have one of those faces that only a mother could love and only then from a distance with sunglasses on.
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Post by stormymorning on Dec 6, 2015 9:35:51 GMT
I voted "Yes for some penpals, no to others" because it would depend on the penpal and how well I know him/her. If someone starts asking for a photo in the second letter already or if I feel we're only chatting a bit but we're not really "friends", I'd say no. Others, I wouldn't mind sending a picture.
Chojo, I can't believe you lost penpals by showing yourself! I would only be curious to see my penpals, but it wouldn't matter to me at all if they look like America's next top model or not.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 11, 2015 20:32:05 GMT
I don't mind sending a photo after I've been writing to someone for a while and we've got to know each other a bit better but I haven't sent any for years.....I tend to mostly take pics of my cats or my allotment or days out and completely forget about taking ones of Neil or myself I voted ''Yes but there's no rush''
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Post by vertolive on Dec 12, 2015 15:40:55 GMT
I had the same thing as chojo, posted a photo on a pen forum and immediately lost a quarter of my correspondents. Darn it, I'd thought it was a pretty good picture. Maybe I need to re-evaluate my "look"!
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Post by annavalerious on Jan 7, 2016 9:45:05 GMT
I try not to. I've had bad experiences with male pen pals in the past and I want to build a true friendship first, not a friendship based on my looks. No, I don't look like Cindy Crawford, but still I've had problems. One of my best friends is a guy, we've been corresponding for five years but we've never exchanged pictures. And it will stay like this until we meet in person.
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Post by mailartist on Jan 8, 2016 23:04:02 GMT
Generally, I'm sending a letter, and not applying for a passport. So, no, I don't send a photo just to send "a mug."
On the other hand, if a photo would serve to illustrate something I'm talking about in my letter, then I might include it. You know, "a picture is worth a thousand words" -- and sometimes I just don't want to write that much. So, if I'm writing about some place I visited on vacation, it might be "here's a picture of that place, and my husband and I just happened to be in the shot, so okay, this is me."
However, I do think carefully about what other people might be in a snapshot, and whether they would be okay with this photo being sent out. If I have any doubts, I don't send.
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Post by thatauthor on Jan 8, 2016 23:13:04 GMT
I've never asked for one but I've been asked. To be honest I don't have any photos of myself (much to my relatives chagrin), and I wouldn't mind sending them if I had them.
Personally I'd rather not have a picture. I'm so visual it would kind of skew the image that I have in my head (if I have one at all), and like reading a book I'd rather just leave it to my imagination.
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Post by erin on Jan 19, 2016 16:50:40 GMT
I've sent out Christmas cards with my family picture in it.... and a lot of my penpals I'm friends with on Facebook so they see all my silly postings and photos. It's funny because I rarely have an actual photo to send anyone anyway. Everything is digital!
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Post by DJW1066 on Jan 19, 2016 18:50:35 GMT
It's not occurred to me to send a picture of myself. I suppose if I was asked, and reminded a few times, then I might find a picture of me taken from a distance with binoculars in front of my face. But I suspect my pen pals already have enough difficulty reading my writing, and it would only make matters worse if my letters also conjured scary images. Then again, I could have a drawing done rather than a photo; I'm sure one of my 6 year old grandchildren would do a fair representation.
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