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Post by penguy on Nov 16, 2020 18:03:05 GMT
A computer matched up my wife and I before there was such a thing as the internet or apps. We were matched up for a computer dance 56 years ago. Computer dance? What's that? It was at our college. A questionnaire was sent out and anyone who wanted to participate in the computer dance filled it out. The information was used by a programmer and you were matched up with several people. At the dance the fellows were given three computer punch cards (this was a long time ago) each with a different number. The women each had a number. You found the number of the girl you were matched up with for each of three sets of dances. My future wife was the first person I was matched up with. I have no idea what the criteria was that the programmer used, but he/she was good as several others who attended the same dance were either matched with someone they were already going with or later married. So we are a very modern couple!!
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Post by eefa on Nov 16, 2020 19:06:05 GMT
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Post by doultonmyra on Nov 16, 2020 22:50:32 GMT
My husband and I were matched by hand. When I was a freshman in college I had a good friend who lived on my corridor. She had vowed eternal fidelity to her boyfriend, who was in another town.
She amused herself by calling up the young men in their dorms (yes, the dorms were segregated by gender and there was a huge hill between them). She called guys at random and talked to them. Her "darker purpose" was to find husbands for all of the young ladies who she believed needed a husband. And really--she was like a sort of EMMA and was very 19th century about it. Or was she more of a yenta?
Anyhow, in November she had selected a husband for me. I was not interested...fast forward.
Fast forward to say that we married in 1973.
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Post by distractedmom on Nov 17, 2020 2:53:28 GMT
I went to college with one of Jason's best friends from high school, Aaron. Aaron lived in the same dorm as me (there were male floors and female floors)and after Aaron and I became friends, I got really tired of him talking about this Jason guy and how awesome Jason was, how much fun Jason was, blah blah, blah. I mean, really, no one could be that amazing. Eventually Aaron decided that Jason and I would be perfect for one another. We've been married for 24 years.
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Post by radellaf on Nov 18, 2020 15:37:28 GMT
I'm glad I didn't judge the first messages too harshly, since my sweetie since ~2005 doesn't put much (any?) priority on using any more grammar or formatting than absolutely required to be comprehensible. The idea of quoting a previous message (not just leaving it at the bottom) not only seems to be a monumental effort for her, but also she scorns the usefulness (I can't usually communicate without it - and blame MS Outlook for its marginalization). Anyway, she was a 2 or 3 message and then meet kind of person whose profile was basically a list of who shouldn't respond (vs what she's looking for). I guess I passed the initial coffee shop meet test, and we're still together. There were no apps, but match .com was well established at the time. The list was pretty short when searching ages 30-45 who both did not want more kids, and whose kids were no longer living at home. At the time I don't think they had the option for "in their 20s, sometimes employed, back at home." In 2020 (2017 even) I think dating via some sort of online service is the norm rather than the exception. It really makes me wonder when I read evo-bio or pickup books/articles that are still talking about meeting someone at a bar. I like the line a friend of my brother had: "if you want to meet an alcoholic, go to a bar." Me, mostly I just don't want to try to shout over loud music.
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Post by ginny on Nov 18, 2020 17:22:37 GMT
In 2020 (2017 even) I think dating via some sort of online service is the norm rather than the exception. It really makes me wonder when I read evo-bio or pickup books/articles that are still talking about meeting someone at a bar. I like the line a friend of my brother had: "if you want to meet an alcoholic, go to a bar." Me, mostly I just don't want to try to shout over loud music. If I had been restricted to meeting someone at a bar, I would most likely still be single. I met my husband at my workplace nearly 30 years ago (I work in public admin)
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Post by stompie on Nov 18, 2020 19:35:37 GMT
Lyn and I met on a dating app! Edit: Dating site
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