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Post by Mia on Oct 11, 2018 21:58:31 GMT
Reading a thread elsewhere about ink permanency and journals, etc, what there is to pass down to family... Journals might not be meant to be read by other people (or might not be so heartfelt), but if you wanted something to be read by a certain someone, then perhaps write them a letter instead. www.nytimes.com/2016/09/07/well/family/writing-a-last-letter-before-you-get-sick.html is an article about writing a letter while healthy, although possible while sick, there then is so little time and might not be time enough to say all the things you should say. In the article, there is a link to The Stanford Letter Project (or Stanford Friends and Family Letter Project). ... On the Project webpage, there are links to templates. The article also mentions other templates.
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Post by filpot on Oct 12, 2018 5:34:15 GMT
This is a hugely important topic. If people can't bring themselves to talk about it, thinking carefully and writing it down is the next best thing. Actually, it might be an even better thing, because it avoids the possibility of "but he/she didn't mean it", which is more easily applied to spoken words than to written ones.
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Post by saucermcfly on Feb 15, 2020 4:22:33 GMT
I have considered this - letters left behind. But I have not yet written any. The inclination for the letters to exist is there, but not the inspiration to get down what I need to. I created a shared file on my Dropbox for funeral wishes, but it remains incomplete. I kept thinking of little things I wanted, but found I was not telling anyone about it. So, I created the file with a few notes and shared with several close friends. I left instructions for one friend to retrieve journals and she said "I will have to read them, you know." I said that was fine; I just didn't really want family to get their hands on them! But, I have also been quite aware of the fact she may end up reading them if I go before her, so now I find I hold back if I might want to vent about her in some way. Whoops.
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Post by distractedmom on Feb 17, 2020 0:31:16 GMT
I haven't done this, but I just read a book about end of life issues that was wonderfully well-written and it has made me want to do these things: write letters, leave instructions, be clear about my wishes. The book was called Being Mortal by Atul Gawande
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Post by distractedmom on Feb 17, 2020 16:55:56 GMT
I haven't done this, but I just read a book about end of life issues that was wonderfully well-written and it has made me want to do these things: write letters, leave instructions, be clear about my wishes. The book was called Being Mortal by Atul Gawande Found the book online and have started reading....about 20% in and very much "enjoying" it if you can say that such a topic is enjoyable! Lol Thanks for mentioning the book! I am so glad that you are enjoying it. I read it with the ladies from my book club and was sure that I was going to hate it because it is such a difficult topic. But I think he does a fantastic job of addressing aging and issues related to aging and mortality in general.
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Post by DJW1066 on Mar 7, 2020 19:36:24 GMT
Another excellent book on this under-discussed topic is: Extreme Measures: Finding a Better Path to the End of Life, by Dr Jessica N. Zitter. Highly recommended for anybody, and their family, who isn’t going to live this life forever.
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Post by doultonmyra on Jun 25, 2020 20:28:16 GMT
I, too, can recommend "Being Mortal." It taught me a lot and reinforced much of what I had been wondering about on my own.
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