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Post by Deleted on Nov 30, 2015 18:06:37 GMT
This thread was inspired by this discussion. What has been the most funny, weird, strange etc. reason why a penpal stopped writing to you (if they told you at all)? In my case a (rather new) penpal was annoyed because I hadn't sent her a card for Easter. Well, I've never ever in my life sent cards for Easter (so please don't expect that from me), but that excuse didn't count. I wasn't even aware I was making a fatal mistake.
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Post by Mia on Nov 30, 2015 20:33:19 GMT
I don't send Easter cards (although I might use themed stickers). I haven't had any unusual excuses for people not writing - the usual things have been change/loss of jobs or letters getting lost, or there is no click. For me, I have stopped writing when someone writes very short and/or incredibly boring letters that tell you nothing new.
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Post by alcyone on Dec 8, 2015 14:38:00 GMT
If I stop writing it's because I've forgotten whose turn it is.
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Post by saskiamadding on Dec 8, 2015 22:35:08 GMT
I have had two spats with pen pals. One didn't like that I was "too analytical", and in her next pal add she specifically asked for someone less interested in how things work and more interested in just chatting about their day. <shrug>
I had another guy get upset with me that I wasn't thrilled about the care his daughter took of one of her pets. For me, that is a make it or break it issue, so I just stopped writing to him after he wrote to chastise me about how I offended him.
Sometimes people just don't connect. Sometimes you find out you're not as similar as you thought you were. Sometimes you find out you think each other is irritating. Sometimes it doesn't work out, the same way it doesn't when you're meeting any type of new friend.
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Post by sharmon202 on Dec 10, 2015 22:02:33 GMT
I had one lovely lady correspondent but she only wanted pleasantries and quit writing. I need a bit more than that so it was ok with me.
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Post by vertolive on Dec 12, 2015 15:51:20 GMT
No one has ever told me why they stop writing to me. I have some very characteristic little features in my letters that some might use as a litmus test as to whether or not they'll click with me, so I'm guessing that is the reason. That or the Kiss of Death photo I posted on my pen forum once (!)
I stop writing when I get letters the entire content of which is "Hi, this is a Waterman and I'm using Diamine Blue ink. Bye for now." There's just not enough of a conversational toehold there for me to continue.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 12, 2015 17:34:23 GMT
I have some very characteristic little features in my letters that some might use as a litmus test as to whether or not they'll click with me, so I'm guessing that is the reason. You're riddling. What exactly do you do to scare your penpals off?
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Post by skye on Dec 17, 2015 1:30:06 GMT
I have some very characteristic little features in my letters that some might use as a litmus test as to whether or not they'll click with me, so I'm guessing that is the reason. I must remember to ask you what these little features are.
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Post by annavalerious on Jan 7, 2016 10:01:28 GMT
Some people told me they wanted to stop writing me because they didn't have time anymore: they got married, or got a baby, or moved out... another people told me they didn't feel any connection with me anymore as our lives were too different. And some people never told me why they stopped writing. If I stop I always tell the person why. I only had to do it a few times and it was always because we didn't click anymore or, in the case of my male friends, because they wanted more than friendship. Now I have 8 great pen pals and I really hope we'll be friends for a very, very long time.
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Post by Steph Walford on Dec 2, 2016 11:34:53 GMT
My common reason is my heath
But I'm getting there
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Post by mskafka on Dec 2, 2016 12:31:44 GMT
I lost pen pals for many reasons: pen pal 1- because I forgot her birthday. pen pal 2- because we had common pen pals and I wrote to someone else first. pen pal 3- because I never commented on her pictures on Facebook. pen pal 4- because we met in person and it was a disaster. pen pal 5- because she found me boring. pen pal 6- because he "fell in love" with me. pen pal 7- because his wife didn't like that he wrote to me. I have many other stories, but I'll leave them for another time
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Post by Mia on Dec 2, 2016 15:59:47 GMT
I found most of my received letters from 1995. I had placed a penpal ad in international newspapers and received many answers. However, with most, the correspondence fizzled out. Some of it was my "fault" - I didn't write back (I wasn't a reliable penpal in my early 20s), but maybe I did not make it clear all I wanted was penfriendship. The reasons I think with some hindsight were: 1) One person only wrote about God and religion, nothing else, not even the weather. I didn't write back a second time. 2) Letters received were boring. There was nothing to reply to (actually, this happened with a letter received a couple of years ago through Swap-Bot) 3) Letters received wanted fantasies and I was not into writing intimate responses. 4) Photos were sent and I was expected to reciprocate. This put me off, although it can be good to put a face to a name. 5) I think some were after a relationship - not happening. 6) Life shortens the amount of time for letterwriting, at times (going out with a boyfriend, seeing friends, moving to another area of the country...) 7) One moved to a different country and guess the letters were not a priority to unpack, so we lost touch.
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Post by Monkey on Dec 2, 2016 16:58:18 GMT
I lost pen pals for many reasons: pen pal 1- because I forgot her birthday. pen pal 2- because we had common pen pals and I wrote to someone else first. pen pal 3- because I never commented on her pictures on Facebook. pen pal 4- because we met in person and it was a disaster. pen pal 5- because she found me boring. pen pal 6- because he "fell in love" with me. pen pal 7- because his wife didn't like that he wrote to me. I have many other stories, but I'll leave them for another time Goodness gracious you must take the cake on shallow people experiences! And good grief, a person was actually discussing with someone else when their letters to & from others were sent & received?? That is nuts!
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Post by sails on Dec 2, 2016 17:08:16 GMT
I found most of my received letters from 1995. I had placed a penpal ad in international newspapers and received many answers. However, with most, the correspondence fizzled out. Some of it was my "fault" - I didn't write back (I wasn't a reliable penpal in my early 20s), but maybe I did not make it clear all I wanted was penfriendship. The reasons I think with some hindsight were: 1) One person only wrote about God and religion, nothing else, not even the weather. I didn't write back a second time. 2) Letters received were boring. There was nothing to reply to (actually, this happened with a letter received a couple of years ago through Swap-Bot) 3) Letters received wanted fantasies and I was not into writing intimate responses. 4) Photos were sent and I was expected to reciprocate. This put me off, although it can be good to put a face to a name. 5) I think some were after a relationship - not happening. 6) Life shortens the amount of time for letterwriting, at times (going out with a boyfriend, seeing friends, moving to another area of the country...) 7) One moved to a different country and guess the letters were not a priority to unpack, so we lost touch. I like fantasies. For instance, I often pretend to be a multimillionaire with aquamarine eyes and superpowers.
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Post by mskafka on Dec 2, 2016 18:14:50 GMT
I lost pen pals for many reasons: pen pal 1- because I forgot her birthday. pen pal 2- because we had common pen pals and I wrote to someone else first. pen pal 3- because I never commented on her pictures on Facebook. pen pal 4- because we met in person and it was a disaster. pen pal 5- because she found me boring. pen pal 6- because he "fell in love" with me. pen pal 7- because his wife didn't like that he wrote to me. I have many other stories, but I'll leave them for another time Goodness gracious you must take the cake on shallow people experiences! And good grief, a person was actually discussing with someone else when their letters to & from others were sent & received?? That is nuts! I know Although I miss number 6 and 7. I wrote to both of them for 3 years...
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