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Post by katiel on May 29, 2021 10:56:20 GMT
But this forum seems to attract people who are dedicated letter writers, loyal, and just generally fun to write with... That has been my experience too. I guess this would be a pretty boring forum for someone who didn't like writing letters. Hahaha! Probably! 😂
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Post by katiel on May 29, 2021 11:05:23 GMT
There is absolutely no reason to feel guilty. If you don't want to write, you don't want to write. This is why I asked if it was a letter that really made you go 'oh, wow, I'd love to get to know this person'. If you had said 'yes, but I don't know if I have the time for another correspondent', I would have said 'go for it, anyway'. But you didn't sound too excited about the person, to be honest - it was more that you appreciated the effort she had put into her letter and the painting.
I don't know about everyone else here, but I get to hear a lot about the famous 'click' when people talk about why they write letters to a particular person. I know what that means, but I'm also in the business for long enough to know that this 'click' might not happen instantaneously, so I tend to give people a chance, even if there's no immediate 'oh, I'm so excited'-vibe. However, with some people, I know rightaway that chances aren't great for us to have a good communication. Sometimes, I cannot pinpoint what it is and have to mull over it. But as it is, we cannot be friends with literally everyone, and so we have to find out about our own comfortzone and what we look for in a (pen) friendship.
Yeah, I think you’re right about that, and after you wrote that the first time, it was something I was definitely thinking about afterwards. She seemed really nice, but just wasn’t making me feel that “WOW” excitement about writing back. That and what Catida said about how it shouldn’t feel like a chore helped me realize it really was okay to say no, but to me it still seems like I’m being a mean snob or something. Irrational, maybe, but I still feel kind of bad that she might be disappointed. But again, suggesting other places to find great pen friends might definitely help (and stickers!).
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Post by eefa on Jun 5, 2021 16:34:14 GMT
I know that I’m way late commenting on this but I do hope you managed to address the situation. It does not sound to me as if you are being mean snob at all. Unfortunately we all have a finite amount of time available to us and I couldn’t agree more with Catida Writing letters should be fun not an obligation. If it were me I certainly would respond to thank her but then do as you were suggesting. I don’t think there is any harm in pointing out that Postcrossing is not a site for finding pen pals. Anyway, good luck and don’t feel bad!!
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Post by Deleted on Jun 7, 2021 13:28:45 GMT
I joined Postcrossing after I read about it here. I was briefly involved with Bookcrossing years ago. Love the concept of both these sites. I have sent my first postcard to a lady in Germany, but I have no idea if anyone else has my address yet.
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Post by katiel on Jun 7, 2021 14:32:04 GMT
I joined Postcrossing after I read about it here. I was briefly involved with Bookcrossing years ago. Love the concept of both these sites. I have sent my first postcard to a lady in Germany, but I have no idea if anyone else has my address yet. That’s so exciting! I’m so glad you joined! I think you’ll love it. As soon as the German lady registers your postcard as “received,” someone will get your address. Let us know how it goes! 🙂
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Post by Deleted on Jun 7, 2021 21:26:54 GMT
Ah yes, that's right, I had forgotten. It has been a few weeks since I joined. Guess I will have to be patient. Mail to and from Australia can take forever
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Post by InsomniaQueen on Jun 8, 2021 5:35:23 GMT
I'm really late to this conversation. Oops! The Postcrossing forum has a place for those seeking pen pals. I've found a couple of pen pals that way. I also think there is nothing wrong with thanking someone for their letter/painting and explaining that you aren't accepting pen pals right now.
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Post by sunshine2170 on Jul 3, 2021 6:05:32 GMT
I joined Postcrossing after I read about it here. I was briefly involved with Bookcrossing years ago. Love the concept of both these sites. I have sent my first postcard to a lady in Germany, but I have no idea if anyone else has my address yet. I've been in postcrossing since 2015 and I remember the agony of waiting for that first postcard to arrive and one to come back to me, then you can send another one. I am now at 15 postcards I can send. Mail is still slow outgoing then they have to send it back so it could be 3 months or more e.g. I sent my last lot of postcards on 16 Apr - the last one was received on Jun 30. Now if that is the time frame then it will take that amount of time for the next lot. Its like every quarter. The way postcrossing works is one for one, you send one and when it gets registered then someone else gets your address and sends you one back, its very slow in the beginning. Meanwhile I played in swaps that were posted and got more postcards that way. katiel that is a big dilemma for you. I would have just sent one letter back to thank and then to politely say I was full up with penpals and couldnt justify another one. I am guilty of writing long letters myself, but sadly I cant paint lol, so no one is getting a painting from me
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